Dealing with a miscarriage is not an easy thing, particularly when you’re not emotionally or mentally prepared for it. We were reeling from the curveball that was thrown at us for several days. But we had to do what we had to do so we did our requisite consultation with Hazel’s OB-Gyne. What followed was difficult, expensive, and a bit harrowing.Since the body was already trying to get rid of the remains inside the womb, we had to take steps to help it along. The options were Natural Expulsion, medicine to induce contractions, and Dilation and Curettage.
Natural Expulsion is when you allow the body to “deliver” the remains on its own. It’s supposed to look like you’re having your period but in greater amounts and with solid clumps.In our case, after waiting for around two weeks, Hazel started to feel some pain but not as much as expected. So she went to the bathroom and there she had her expulsion.
About two hours passed when the expulsion stopped. The floor of the shower was quite the mess and Hazel was exhausted. We saw a large clump of blood and flesh, picked it up, and blessed it with holy water. It seemed to be the bulk of the remains, and it’s where we believe our baby was forming.
We went to the OB again to see if anything remained and true enough, there was still an ample amount left. This led us to do option two, take medicine to induce contractions. So Hazel did, and after the allowed time, no contractions came. We had no choice but to do the more expensive choice, option three.
Hopkins Medicine defines a Dilation and Curettage procedure, also called a D&C, as a surgical procedure in which the cervix (lower, narrow part of the uterus) is dilated (expanded) so that the uterine lining (endometrium) can be scraped with a curette (spoon-shaped instrument) to remove abnormal tissues. Abnormal tissues in this case being the rest of the remains from the miscarriage.
Hazel was wheeled into the operating room in Makati Medical Center and after some time she rested in the recovery area. Post-operative pain was present and at least it was manageable with painkillers. And an operation is always as draining on the wallet as the body so we needed time to recover from that too.
We do believe that life begins at conception, and so we did lose our baby that time. We knew not the gender nor the exact age, as the baby hadn’t even formed enough to make those very apparent. But we gave our baby a name, and a very appropriate one at that. Angel will always be our first baby and Nixi’s older sibling.
To be continued.
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If you’re not squeamish, here’s the D and C procedure explained in animated form: